A Classmate's Unwanted Advice Leaves Student Frustrated
A female college student has been following a disturbing pattern of behavior from a male classmate who insists on inserting himself into her personal conversations. The issue escalated when the man followed the student to her car and began lecturing her about bras, despite her clear discomfort.
While Miss Manners acknowledges that the subject matter might be considered "women's issues," she stresses that the student's primary concern should be addressing the inconsiderate behavior of following her to her vehicle. Rather than confronting the classmate directly about how his actions made her feel, Miss Manners advises focusing on stopping this behavior and avoiding giving the impression that women are not open to hearing a man's opinions on sensitive topics.
Instead, the student could point out the need for personal space in situations like these and set clear boundaries. By doing so, they can discourage the classmate from engaging in such invasive behavior without inadvertently giving him an opportunity to lecture her further. Miss Manners emphasizes that it is crucial to prioritize one's own comfort and well-being in these situations.
In a separate question, a colleague of the student expressed frustration over a director at their workplace issuing a company-wide email inviting everyone to a baby shower for her daughter, who does not work there. The woman felt that this was an awkward and inappropriate gesture, particularly given the director's influence over the team.
Miss Manners advises approaching the situation delicately and suggesting alternative arrangements for the event. If the colleague is uncomfortable attending or feels they should speak out against it, she recommends involving HR or management to address the issue. The key is finding a solution that respects the boundaries of everyone involved without creating unnecessary conflict.
A female college student has been following a disturbing pattern of behavior from a male classmate who insists on inserting himself into her personal conversations. The issue escalated when the man followed the student to her car and began lecturing her about bras, despite her clear discomfort.
While Miss Manners acknowledges that the subject matter might be considered "women's issues," she stresses that the student's primary concern should be addressing the inconsiderate behavior of following her to her vehicle. Rather than confronting the classmate directly about how his actions made her feel, Miss Manners advises focusing on stopping this behavior and avoiding giving the impression that women are not open to hearing a man's opinions on sensitive topics.
Instead, the student could point out the need for personal space in situations like these and set clear boundaries. By doing so, they can discourage the classmate from engaging in such invasive behavior without inadvertently giving him an opportunity to lecture her further. Miss Manners emphasizes that it is crucial to prioritize one's own comfort and well-being in these situations.
In a separate question, a colleague of the student expressed frustration over a director at their workplace issuing a company-wide email inviting everyone to a baby shower for her daughter, who does not work there. The woman felt that this was an awkward and inappropriate gesture, particularly given the director's influence over the team.
Miss Manners advises approaching the situation delicately and suggesting alternative arrangements for the event. If the colleague is uncomfortable attending or feels they should speak out against it, she recommends involving HR or management to address the issue. The key is finding a solution that respects the boundaries of everyone involved without creating unnecessary conflict.
. If someone's giving you the creeps, just tell 'em no, and move on. Don't make it about "women's issues" or whatever - it's just basic human decency 
. And if someone's being super awkward like that classmate, just set clear boundaries and don't engage. Like, don't give them an opportunity to lecture you further 
. Prioritize your own comfort and well-being - it's not selfish, it's self-care 
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. Like, personal space is not that hard to understand, right? Following someone to their car and giving unsolicited advice about bras is just creepy 
. And yeah, maybe the student should just point out how it made her feel instead of engaging with him further 
. It's not about being "closed off" to hearing opinions, it's about feeling safe and respected. And can we talk about how awkward it is for everyone else who was there? 
I mean, seriously, who follows someone to their car and starts lecturing them on bras?!?! That's just plain creepy and invasive. What's next, showing up at her doorstep? 
The student needs to take a stand and set some clear boundaries, like, "Hey, dude, personal space is not cool." And yeah, it's true, she should prioritize her own comfort and well-being, but she shouldn't feel obligated to listen to some guy's opinions on sensitive topics just because he's being awkward. It's all about finding that balance and saying, "Nope, I'm good."
. Like, what even is his deal? He follows her to her car and starts lecturing her about bras?! Is he trying to make a point about being a chivalrous gentleman or just a creepy stalker? Either way, it's super off-putting.
! I would be totally livid if someone followed me to my car and started lecturing me about something as personal as my bra size. Like, what's next? Them telling you how to tie your shoes? It's not about the subject matter, it's about respecting people's boundaries and giving them space. We should all just focus on setting clear limits and saying no if someone's being too pushy or invasive. I mean, it's okay to have a conversation about something that interests you, but don't do it in my face when I'm trying to leave or get some peace. And can we talk about how weird it is that this guy feels comfortable doing that just because he thinks the topic is "women's issues"? Like, no, dude, your opinion isn't entitled just because you're a man 
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If they're uncomfortable attending, they should speak up or involve HR, you know? It's all about respecting people's boundaries and being considerate of others. 
what's next gonna follow her home too? and he thinks giving unsolicited advice about bras 
anyway, i guess setting clear boundaries is key here... yeah right, easier said than done when you're dealing with people who can't take no for an answer 
what if she's actually happy to have a celebration? shouldn't we just be happy for her instead of making a big deal out of it? 
. like, if you want to talk to someone, ask them first and don't just follow them around like a stalker 
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. its all about setting boundaries and prioritizing ur own comfort. dont be afraid to speak up if someones being rude or invasive, its better 2 address it head on than 2 deal with the drama later 
this guy needs some serious boundaries setting 101... following someone to their car and lecturing them on bras? what's next, showing up at their house for a chat? 
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this dude is literally stalking her to her car and lecturing her about bras like what even is wrong with him? 
... Shouldn't he be focusing on respecting her boundaries instead of trying to "help" her out? Like, if she doesn't want to talk about it, just don't 
... And what's with the director at work thinking it's a good idea to invite everyone to a baby shower for someone who doesn't even work there? That's just awkward and unprofessional 
... Shouldn't they be focusing on respecting their colleagues' boundaries instead of trying to impose their own expectations?